“A mind needs books as a sword needs a whetstone, if it is to keep its edge.” (A Game of Thrones by George R. R. Martin)
In my experience, many people, mostly women, have a strange prejudice against fantasy and sci-fi. Here is my advice to you: buy a cheap fantasy novel (preferably a good one) and keep it in the bottom of your purse/car for however long it takes. It may be a year, but at some point you will find yourself stuck with nothing to do, and the grubby paperback will shine like a beacon of hope in your bored, desperate mind. Then perhaps you’ll give it a fair chance and see fantasy for what it really is: a life saver.
The Game of Thrones would be a pretty good choice for your last attempt to enjoy fantasy; the names are generally monosyllabic, the map small, and the plot is written with an eye for visuals. That being said, you will probably never enjoy high fantasy if you only like fast-paced reads. Martin, like Tolkien, etc, engages in world building by hinting at millennia of history and populating his books with slews of characters and different perspectives. Where Game of Thrones differs from other high fantasy series is in how Martin crafts his females. Instead of being bristly, hair-obsessed plot-stoppers, (like in other well-loved fantasy series) his women grow to be empowered bearers of dragons. Which is much more interesting to read about, no matter your gender.
Further Reading: If you do decide to like this, there is a whole world of high fantasy for you to dig into. However, the way Martin writes his female characters makes me want to recommend actual female-oriented fantasy, and for that you should look no further than N. K. Jemisin, author of the Inheritance trilogy and Dreamblood trilogy.